Ahead of Valentine's Day, Trulia surveyed Americans across the country to see how much real estate and dating choices intertwine.
When it comes to dating, we all have our own kooky preferences for finding that special someone. Whether we’re looking strictly for dog lovers, vegetarians, outdoorsy types or homebodies, everyone has a check-list of “must haves” or “would likes” to screen out the best possible prospects.
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we asked ourselves whether a person’s living situation affects their chances of finding love? Are women more attracted to men who own a home? Do men prefer women who rent in the suburbs vs. the city? We fielded our Love & Housing survey asking more than 2,000 US adults how much they care about a potential partner’s housing preference.
We found some surprising and some not-so-surprising stats on how today’s singles view dating and real estate.

Single and living with your parents? It may be time to move out.
It is now officially official that if you call your parents, “roomies,” you probably have a non-existent dating life. According to our survey, only 5% of unmarried U.S. adults would prefer date someone in that living situation.
But parents aside, most unmarried adults (62%) would rather date someone who lives alone versus someone who lives with other people — which makes sense. Living alone means no distractions and more privacy. However, when it comes to location and the type of home, there was definitely a noticeable difference between men and women. More women preferred to date someone who lived in a house in the suburbs and more men preferred dating someone in an apartment in the city. What can we say, guys like the fast-paced city life and girls long for the white picket fence!
| Would you, personally, prefer dating someone who lives…? | |
| Total, Unmarried U.S. Adults | |
| Alone | 62% |
| With other people | 14% |
| Other or None | 24% |
| Would you, personally, prefer dating someone who lives…? | |||
| Total | Unmarried Men | Unmarried Women | |
| Alone in a house in the suburbs | 33% | 29% | 37% |
| Alone in an apartment in the city | 29% | 32% | 25% |
| With roommates in either the suburbs or the city | 9% | 14% | 9% |
| With their parents | 5% | 6% | 4% |
More men open to shacking up to save money
When you take that big step to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are ultimately giving up your single life and layin down some commitment. But these days, this move is sometimes less about the solidifying the relationship and more about being economical. In our survey, a whopping 74% of unattached renters (meaning those who don’t own a home and haven’t tied the knot/haven’t made the decision to live together) said they would be at least somewhat willing to live with their significant other to save money. What we found was rather interesting. Men are more likely to be very willing or willing than women (51% vs. 34%) to giving up the bachelor pad to save some money!
| Would you be willing to live with a boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other to save money due to the economy? | |||
| Total | Unmarried Men | Unmarried Women | |
| Very Willing | 21% | 23% | 18% |
| Willing | 22% | 28% | 16% |
| Somewhat willing | 32% | 28% | 36% |
| Not at all willing | 26% | 21% | 30% |
Homeownership is NOT a deal breaker.
A majority (63%) of unmarried U.S. adults said it didn’t matter whether their significant other owned their own home or rented. That said, there are definitely more than a few picky daters out there who do care. Women in particular are more likely than men to prefer dating a homeowner versus a renter (36% vs. 19%). What can we say, some women really know what they want.
| Would prefer dating someone who rents or owns their own home? | |||
| Total | Unmarried Men | Unmarried Women | |
| Owns their own home | 28% | 19% | 36% |
| Rents their home | 2% | 2% | 2% |
| It Doesn’t matter to me | 63% | 72% | 54% |
| Not Sure | 7% | 6% | 8% |
Younger daters say homeownership signals commitment
Among unmarried U.S. adults, 43% said homeownership is NOT an indication that someone may be serious about being in a long-term committed relationship, such as marriage. And when we looked at what men and women said separately, there was only a sliver of a difference — 36% of women and 33% of men said owning a home was a signal that someone is ready to settle down.
However, when we took a at the differences in opinions across different generations, 44% of millenials (18-34 year olds) felt that homeownership does equal commitment while only 26% of Baby Boomers (55+ year olds) felt the same.
| Do you think homeownership indicates that a person may be serious about being in a long-term committed relationship, such as marriage? | |||||
| Total | 18-34 YO | 35-44 YO | 45-54 YO | 55+ YO | |
| Yes | 34% | 44% | 28% | 26% | 26% |
| No | 43% | 35% | 50% | 54% | 47% |
| Not Sure | 22% | 21% | 21% | 21% | 26% |
What spells love at first sight for first-time homebuyers
We asked all U.S. adults surveyed to select every amentitiy that would make them “fall in love” with a home. For men and women in the market for their first home, both sexes are actually seeing eye to eye on what’s most important — which according to our survey is the master bathroom, followed by a … walk-in closet!? Guess there is a lot more synergy between the sexes than we thought and that men care as much about their shoes and clothes as women do!

Maybe the battle of the sexes on this issue isn’t much of a battle after all.
Love and housing – it’s a tricky little thing
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In the age-old battle of the sexes, who “wins” when it comes to pricing and putting homes up for sale?
Believe it or not, America’s workforce is made up of more ladies than gents (almost 60% more, to be specific). Yes sir-eee Bob – it’s very much a woman’s world as far as numbers go, but does this hold true when you take a look at the nitty-gritty details, as in the actual job? Well, out of shear curiosity, we decided to look into the guy-to-girl ratio among real estate pros and see how male and female agents differ – besides on the obvious stuff, that is.
Why are we doing this, you ask? Well, why the heck not?! This is seriously interesting, not to mention fun, factoids to know. And you thought rent vs. buy was a great debate. Well, my friend – you ain’t seen nothing yet.
First things first, here’s our methodology: We started with a simple name analysis using the genderizer to separate the men from the women agents among all the real estate pros on Trulia.com. Then we took a good hard look at which gender outnumbered the other in this industry, who listed more homes for sale and who had more expensive homes.
The Pink Ladies of Real Estate
Not to reinforce stereotypes, but let’s face it…some careers are dominated by women (think nurses and nannies) and some are made up of almost all men (can we say construction workers and software engineers). But as far as the real estate industry goes, the gender divide is fairly balanced…or is it? In one of the early draft of our female vs. male real estate agent map, we colored each state pink where there were more women and blue where there were more men.
To our surprise, we ended up with a really, really pink map – see for yourself.

So what’s going on here? Well, as it turns out, there’s actually more women than men who are in the business of buying and selling homes for a living…and the state by state breakdown wasn’t crazy different. Looking at the lower end of the spectrum, there are about 48% more female than male agents in South Dakota and Nebraska. Meanwhile, on the higher end of the spectrum, there are 64% more women working as real estate agents than men in Mississippi and Oklahoma. What can we say, however you try to slice this, the ladies are kicking butt and taking names. Needless to say, the first point goes to the ladies.
Anything you can do, I can do better. I can list more homes than you.
After examining the gender divide, we then took a look at the average number of homes that men and women put up for sale by state. To be clear: this has nothing to do with the actual number of homes sold, just the volume that each agent is listing.

Judging by the number of blue states (where male agents had more listings) to pink states (where female agents had more listings) and grey states (where it was pretty much equal, give or take), the guys definitely list more homes for sale. This was especially true in North Dakota where the men had 129% more homes for sale on the market. To break this down, what this percentage means is that male agents in the roughrider state (not to be confused with Ruff Ryders) have about 25 listings versus the 11 listings by female agents. Sorry ladies, but the guys got game on this. Round two: point goes to the men.
| Where Male Agents List More Homes for Sale Than Female Agents | ||
| # | U.S. State | Percentage |
| 1. | North Dakota | 129% |
| 2. | South Dakota | 87% |
| 3. | Rhode Island | 72% |
| 4. | Nevada | 31% |
| 5. | Arkansas | 29% |
*What does the percentage mean? Male agents in North Dakota has 129% more listings than female agents
What’s Your Price?
Before we jump into how male and female real estate pros differ on price, we want to throw in a quick side note to explain that pricing a home to sell factors in a lot of things about the property (think square footage, age, # of bedrooms and bathrooms) and the neighborhood (can we say crime and school district?). In other words, the average list price isn’t necessarily a reflection on how aggressive the agent is on pricing. In some cases, it could mean that women take on inherently more expensive homes/neighborhoods than men and vice-versa.
Now that we’ve cleared the air, let’s move on. In the next map that we made, we calculated what the average list price is for female and male agents by state based on all the homes that they have up for sale. As you can tell by all the pink states, the ladies tend to put their homes on the market for a higher price than the gents.

This is especially true in West Virginia where homes for sale by a female agent are 63% more expensive. What does this mean? Well, when you look at the raw number, there’s about a $40K difference in the average list price which isn’t chump change if you know what we mean. So boo-ya – another point to the ladies. Game point!
| Where Homes Listed By Female Agents Are More Expensive | ||
| # | U.S. State | Percentage |
| 1. | West Virginia | 63% |
| 2. | Louisiana | 53% |
| 3. | Connecticut | 52% |
| 4. | Illinois | 41% |
| 5. | Nevada | 40% |
*What does the percentage mean? In West Virginia, homes for sale by female agents are 63% more expensive
Where Men and Women are Rocking Real Estate
In looking at how male and female agents differ on price and the sheer volume of homes that they tend to sell at a given time, we made an interesting observation. Even though there are 53% more ladies in the business in Alaska, the guys have an edge on both price (where homes listed by male agents are 72% more expensive) and number of homes that they’ve put up for sale (while not a huge difference, male agents have about 10% more homes for sale on the market).

As for the #1 woman dominated state, it’s Mississippi. Not only are there 64% more female real estate pros, the ladies also have 41% more homes for sale on the market than men and those homes are 27% more expensive on average. What can we say, these southern belles mean business.

After reading through these findings, are you surprised? We’d love to hear your thoughts, especially if you’re a real estate pro – let us know what you think and if live in a pink or blue state.
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